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"[Mark] Hutton and many other therapists and psychologists argue for a more positive approach than threats and punishments. A key to this approach is learning new ways to communicate with teenagers."Hutton suggests finding positive ways to communicate. For example, instead of saying "Don't yell at me," try saying "I need you to talk to me in a calmer tone of voice." Though adjustments in communication can be hard, they'll go a long way toward helping teens develop socially and emotionally. Source: WMUR.com.
Labels: communication, discipline, parenting_styles
posted by ByParents-forParents at 10:05 PM
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"'I don't think you should force anyone to apologize at any age,' she [says]... 'That's teaching kids to lie. If they're not sorry and we make them say sorry, just to make us feel good, that's not about empathy.' Nelsen is all for seeking forgiveness. She just thinks the idea needs to come from the kids themselves."Her suggestion is that the parent talks to her child about his behavior, how it might make the other person feel, and what he could do to make that person feel better. Read more at Slate.com.
Labels: apologies, discipline, forgiveness
posted by ByParents-forParents at 7:02 PM
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"'Pick the time and place for action.'... With teens, discipline judiciously. When you make everything important, nothing is important to your teen. Chose your issues carefully, and avoid nagging and sarcastic remarks. When you need to deal with an important issue, don't impulsively react at a time of anger. Select a time when both you and your teen can talk, listen, and try to understand each other."Other rules include "keep your options open" and the ever-important "you're never completely alone". Though this last rule was considered a bad thing for spies, it's a great thing for parents.
Labels: discipline, parenting_tips, rules
posted by ByParents-forParents at 12:53 PM
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"...all kids know they need guidance from their parents. In fact, they want it. They're probably not going to admit that. To do so would be too much of a concession, too big of a blow to their youthful egos. They like the reassurance that comes with knowing there's somebody who cares for and looks after them.'If you've set rules that you know are fair – stick to them. Be prepared for the pressure your teen will exert and the anger he may feel. Know that in the long run, you're doing what's right and what's best for your child.
Labels: discipline, responsibility, rules
posted by ByParents-forParents at 11:09 AM
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