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"I'd recommend holding your ground. Your teens are simply behaving like normal adolescents, pushing boundaries and challenging rules, says Pauline Tesler, a San Francisco family-law attorney and co-author of 'Collaborative Divorce.' The limits you've set are appropriate..."Tesler goes on to say that even the most well-intentioned teen is subject to peer pressure, which should be considered when setting rules and boundaries. She also suggests that the woman and her ex-husband work hard to come to an agreement about rules regarding empty houses and unauthorized parties. Source: The Wall Street Journal
Labels: boundaries, responsibility, rules
posted by ByParents-forParents at 3:19 AM
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"Girls have always demonstrated a more aggressive adoption of online posting," according to Mary Madden, a senior research specialist at Pew. "It seems that girls are more focused on verbal expression."Studies have shown that girls think differently than boys and therefore learn differently than boys. Private all-girls boarding schools address the specific needs of girls, both in and out of the classroom. New Leaf Academy is an all girls junior boarding school with campuses in Oregon and North Carolina. Bromley Brook is a boarding high school for girls that offers a more traditional location in New England. Copper Canyon Academy boarding schools for troubled girls is located in Arizona.
Labels: boundaries, girls, internet
posted by ByParents-forParents at 2:44 PM
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"It is difficult to determine the limits of what is appropriate to share with your kids about your own life. Teenagers can be remarkably persistent when it comes to "building a case" in support of minimizing their own transgressions. The last thing we want is for them to use our youthful indiscretions as ammo against us. We have already suffered enough. Do our kids need to know this stuff? Is it helpful, even?"When sharing details about your personal life, you are free to use your own discretion. The same is true of your personal space. Married couples have the right to spend time alone, behind locked doors, and are not obligated to answer questions about their activities. Similarly, single parents need their time alone as well.
Labels: boundaries, communication, privacy
posted by ByParents-forParents at 11:13 PM
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"Know who your kids' friends are, talk to their parents. Have a meeting and establish common curfews and rules about parties, drinking and driving. If they're spending the night at a friend's house, verify that with parents."If parents catch a teen breaking curfew or some other established rule, there need to be consequences. Parents should agree on an appropriate punishment, which should be specific to the child and should make a lasting impression. Read more at TheState.com.
Labels: boundaries, communication, consequences
posted by ByParents-forParents at 11:40 AM
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"The bottom line of parenting is providing caring support on a regular basis. That means learning to see teens as whole persons rather than as 'a stage or age;' seeing them positively and believing in their capacity for good and seeking ways to enhance and develop it; engaging them or being actively involved with them regularly."Both the overly permissive and the overly strict parenting style can push teens away, causing them to seek either the boundaries or affection they desire elsewhere. Keeping a healthy balance and offering consistent care and support make all the difference. Read more at News-Press.com.
Labels: boundaries, parenting_styles, support
posted by ByParents-forParents at 9:35 PM
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“AHEAD joins SAMHSA and its experts in asserting that rules are even more important when kids get older because they need to know exactly what their boundaries and expectations are... Clear rules are especially important when it comes to drugs and alcohol. Research shows that young people are less likely to use tobacco, alcohol, and illicit drugs if their parents set rules about not doing so."Parents need to set clear rules and consistently enforce them, which includes being consistent about consequences when rules are broken. Read more at JournalReview.com.
Labels: boundaries, dependence, rules
posted by ByParents-forParents at 5:11 PM
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