However, in a May 10 article on the Huffington Post,Donna Fish -- a licensed clinical social worker in Manhattan -- advises parents to admit feelings of deep disappointment or anger toward their children.
I promise you, this is not coming only from the Mom perspective of how I feel at times when I am in the biggest fight with my kids. It comes from the training I have gotten as an analyst, when I was told by one of my best teachers: Good enough is not only good enough, it is vital to help kids tolerate disappointment, and learn to hold onto us in their minds in the face of their own anger and hatred.Fish writes that the word "hatred" may be a bit melodramatic, but that parents still need to be honest about the intense emotions -- positive and negative -- that come with parenting. Kids need to know that they're loved even when their parents are angry. And they need to see their parents work through their anger in healthy ways, so that they can learn to do the same thing.
Parents: Don't ever underestimate the value of open and honest parent-child communication (in all its many forms).
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